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This week, we’re going to take a look at the elusive G spot and hopefully debunk some of the myths surrounding one of the most talked about topics in sex. We hate to break it to you, but pretty much everything we’ve thought to be true about the G spot is potentially inaccurate.
What is the G Spot?
Also known as the Gräfenberg spot, the term was initially named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German physician who wrote about its existence in the 1950s. Even though the G spot has been studied since the middle of the 20th century, disagreement still persists over its existence as a distinct structure, location and definition. Researchers say that the term G spot is a misnomer, as it refers to an area that’s actually part of the wider clitoral network as opposed to its own separate entity.
Traditionally, we’ve been led to believe that the clitoris was just the pea-sized nub that we see on the outside. But the pleasure center of the vulva is much like an iceberg, where the tip makes up only a small part of the picture. The glans clitoris (the little nub that most people refer to as the “clitoris”) divides into two “roots” or crura (which can measure up to four inches in length) as well as vestibular bulbs, which all contain erectile tissue that swells with blood during female arousal. Researchers suggest that the G spot is perhaps located in a place where the sides of the vestibular bulbs of the clitoris make contact with the anterior wall of the vagina.
How can you find it?
Locating this mysterious zone can be somewhat difficult for many people, which is perhaps why it has alluded even the most adventurous of us for a number of decades. Whether you want to try with a partner or embark on a journey of self-exploration, that’s totally up to you. The most important thing is to relax and take your time. When you’re ready, start by massaging the opening to the vagina before inserting your fingers or a sex toy. Once inside, lift your tool or fingers upward as if you were to stroke the underside of your belly button. Continue moving and adjusting to what feels good for you. Some women claim to have reached orgasm from G spot stimulation alone, but this isn’t a one size fits all scenario. So if it feels nice but you don’t reach a climax then it honestly isn’t a big deal.
There are certain positions and movements you can try out during intercourse that work better than others if you’re hoping to encourage stimulation of the G spot. At the end of the day, what works well for some might not work well for others, so going slow and spending time experimenting will help you gage what works best for you. You can engage in these positions regardless of your sexual orientation - a penis or strap-on are both excellent for the job.
If you want to try this position, we’d recommend a modification to this move by placing your knees over your partner’s shoulder to ensure that you encourage stimulation of the G spot.
This is arguably the best way to achieve deeper penetration during intercourse as the penis or strap-on will be tilted slightly downwards, which is the optimal angle if you’re wanting to hit that vaginal wall.
The Rider (formerly known as Cowgirl)
For this one, have your partner lie on their back before climbing on top to straddle them. Here, you’ll have complete control over the whole thing, from angle of penetration to rhythm and depth, so take your time and have fun with it.
If you do decide to go hunting for the ever elusive G spot, we hope that you have fun with it!